第一篇
第一章
1.USA Today（Oct.12,1984）,P.10A.
2 "Lot of Women Grinning andBearing It",USA Today （Jan.15,1985）,p.1.
3 Leslie Linthicum,"The Hug or the Whole Thing?",The Hous-ton Post（Jan.16,1985）.
4 USA Today（Jan l5,1985）,p.1.
5 Dorothy T.Sanuel,Love,Liberation and Marriage （New York:Funk and Wagnalls,1976）,Preface.
6 Rollo May,Love and Will（New York:Dell Publishing Co.,1969）,p.4o.
7 William H.Masters,Virginia E.Johnson,The Pleasure Bond（New York:Bantam Books,1976）,pp.113-114.
8 USA Today（Oct.12,1984）,p.10A.
9 USA Today （Oct.12,1984）,p.10A.
第二章
1 Evelyn Duvall and Rueben Hill,When YOu Marry（New York:Association Press,1948）,p.1.
2 Duvall and Hill,When You Marry,p.26.
3 Elor G.Nelson,Your Life Together（Rlchmond:John Knox Press,1967）p.18.
4 Bob Phinips,A Humorous Look At Love Marriage （Eugene,OR:Harvest House Publishers,1981）,pp.54-77.
第三章
1 Matt Clark,"The Sex-Therapy Revolution,"Newsweek （Nov.17,198O）,p.98.
2"I am Loved"by Wm.J.and Gloria Gaither.Copyright1978 by Wm.J.Gaither.All rights reserved.Used by permis-sion.
3 C.S.Lewis,The Screwtape Letters (Macmillan Publishing Co.,New York,NY,1961）；p.64.
第四章
1 Claire Safran,"Troubles that Pull Couples Apart" Redbook（January,1979）,p.83；
2 Terri Schultz,"Does Marreage Give Today's Women What TheyReally Want?" Ladies Home Journal（June,1980）,pp.90,150.
3 Carla Stephens,"50 Questions Before Yor Say,'I Do'"Christian Life（September,1979）,p.26.
4 Herbert A Glieberman,"Why So Many Marriages Fail,"U.S.A.News＆World Report（Ju1y20,1981）,p.54.
5 USA Today（Octoberl2,1984）,p.11A.
6 Marilyn Elias,"Affairs:Women Look For Intimacy,"USA Today（Nov.6,1984）,p.1D.
7 H.Norman Wright,Communication:Key To Your Marriage（Ventura CA:Regal Books,1979）,p.52
8 Dwight Small,After You've Said I Do（Old Tappan,NJ:Flem-ing H.Revell,1968）,p.51.
9 Cynthia Deutsch,"The Dangers of ASilent Partner,"Parents（Oct.,1979）,p.24.
10 Hamlet Act i,SC.3,1.68.
11 Rechard B.Austin,Jr.,How To Make It With Anoteher Person（New York:MacMillan Publishing Co.,1976）,p.93
12 David Augsburger,Freedom of Forgiveness（Chicago:MoodyPress,1973）,p.87.
13 David Auhsburger,Caring Enough To Hear and Be Heard（Ventura,CA；Regal Books,1982）,p.104.
14 H.Norman Wright,More Communication Keys To Your Marriage（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1983）,p.89.
15 Michelle Sandlass,"The Power of a Happy Positive Self-Im-age."Glamour（Jan.,1979）,p.12O。
16 Dr.David Augsburger,Caring Enough To Hear and Be Heard（Ventura,CA:Reagl Books,1982）,pp.148-150.
17 Joyce Landorf,Tough and Tender（Old Tappan,NJ:F1emingH.Revell Co.,1975）,p.76
第五章
1 H.Norman Wright,More Communication keys For Your Marriage（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1983）,p.9O.
2 David Augsburger,Caring Enough TO Hear and Be Heard（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1982）,p.74.
3 Rlchard Strauss,Marriage Is FOr Love（Wheaton,IL:Tyndale House Publishers,1979）,p.87.
4 George E.and Nikki Kocher,My Family: How shall I Live With It（Chicago,IL:Rand McNally ＆ Co.,1968）,p.27.
5 Jody Gaylin,"First-Year Fights,"Glamour（Dec.,1979）,p.26.
6 J.Allen Petersen,Before YOu Marry（Wheaton,IL:Tyndale House Publishers,Inc.,1974）,p.43.
7 David R.Mace,Getting Ready For Marriage （New York:Abingdon Press,1972）.p71.
8 Wright,More Communication,pp.127-128.
9 Leo Buscaglia in USA Today（October l2,1984）,p.11A.
10 Margaret Lane,"Are You Really Listening?"Reader's Disgest（Nov.,1980）,p.183.
11 Rlchard L.Strauss,Marriage Is For Love,p.86.
12 H.Norman Wright,The Pillars Of Marriage（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1979）,p.86.
13 H.Norman Wright,CommunicatiOn: Key To Your Marriage（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1974）,p.150.
第六章
1 David Augsburger,Caring Enough to Hear And Be Heard（Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1982）,p.20
第七章
1 Tim LaHaye,"How To Live Happioy Ever,"Christian Life（Sept.,1979）,p.26.
2 Richard Strauss,Marriage Is For Love（Wheaton,IL:Tyndale House Publishing,1979）,p.95-96.
3 Hal Linsay,The Liberation of Planet Earth（Grand Rapids:Zondervan Publishing House,1974）,pp.170,172.
第八章
1 Richard Strauss,Marriage Is For Love（Wheaton,IL:Tyndale House Publishing,1979）,p.17.
2 Gretchen Kurz,"Sexual Liberation;Is It Worth the Hasle?"Mademoiselle（August l977）,pp.207-8.
3 Lonnie Barbach and Linda Levine,"How to Turn Good Sex Into Great Sex,"Mademoiselle（October,198O）,p.207.
第九章
1 Sally Wendkos Olds,"Do You Have What It Takes TO Make A Good Marriage?"Ladies’Home Journal（October,198O）,p.202.
2 David R.Mace,"What Makes A Good Marriage?"Family Guide To Good Living （Woodbury:Bobley Publishing Corp.,1977）,p.175.
3 H.G.Zerof Pitfalls Of Romantic Love （n.p.,n.d.）,p.166.
4 David Bogard,"Mamage Made In Heaven,"Decision （June,1981）,p.8.
第十章
1 Herbert J.Miles,Sesual Understanding Before Marriage（Grand Rapids:Zondervan Pliblishing House,1971）,p.197.
2 E1of G.Nelson Your Life Together（Richmond :John Knox Press,1976）,p.20.
3 David R.Mace,Getting Ready For Marriage（New York:Abingdon Press,1972）,p.45.
第十一章
1 Sally Wendkos Olds,"Do You Have What It Takes TO Make A Good Marriage?"Ladies Home Journal（Oct.,1980）,pp.76-78,202-204.
2 Lorna and Phillp Sarrei,eds.,"The Redbook Report On Sexual Relationships:A MajOr New Survey of More Than 26,OOOWOmen And Men,"Redbook（Oct.,1980）,pp.76-77
3 Natalie Gittelson,"Happily Married Women: How They Got That Way,HOw They Stay That Way,"McCalls（Feb.,1980）.p.36.
4 George A.Hughston and Michael J.Sporakowski,"Prescrip-tions For marriage: Adjustments and Satisfactions ofCouples Married for 50 or More Years,"the Fami1y Coordina-tor（Oct.,1978）,p.323.
5 Robert B.Taylor,quoted in"Behind The Surge In Broken Marriages,"U.S.News ＆ World Report（Jan 22,1979）,p.52.
6 DaVid Milofsky,"What Makes A good Family,"Redbook（Aug.,1981）,pp.60,62.
7 Evelyn Millis Duval1,Building Your marriage The FamilyGuide TO Good Living（Woodbury:Bobley Publishing Corp.,1877）,p.68.
8 James Robison,"Survey Hints Religion May Aid Sexual EnjOy-ment,"Chicago Tribune（n.d.,n.p.）
9 Herbert J.Miles Sexual Understanding Bdfore Marriage,PP.76-78.［For Dr.Miles bases for his research,see his book Sex-ual Happiness in Mamage,Appendix I,p.131;Appendix II,pp.132-146.］
10 Josh McDowell,His Image My Image（San Bernardino: Here'sLife Publishers,Inc.,1984）,pp,126-129.
11 J.Allen Petersen,Before YOu Marry（Wheaton,Tyndale House Publishing,1974）,p.28.
第十二章
1 Don Osgood,Christian Herald（December l976）
2 Dpd Digest IBM Corporation
第十三章
1 Terri Schultz,"Does Marriage Give Today's WOmen What They Really Want?"Ladies’Home Journal（June,198O）,p.91.
2 Urban G.Steinmetz and Bernard R.Weise,Everything You Need TO Know tO Stay Married And Like It（Grand Rapids:Zondervan Publishing House,1972）,p.143.
3 Personal letter from Larry Burkett,Dec.,1984.
4 Ibid.
5 Dr.John Mac Arthur,Ju.,from"mastering Materialism" study notes.
第二篇
引言
1 Eve1yn Duvall and Reuben Hill,Before You Marry,（NewYork:Association Press,1959）p.36.
第十五章
1 H.Norman Wright The Pillars Of Marriage（Ventura,CA:Re-gal Books,1979）,pp.41-42.
2 Evelyn Duvall,"Mature Enough TO Marry," The Marriage Affair（wheaton:Tyndale House Publishers,1971）,p.17.
3 Ben A.Ard,Jr.,and Constance C.Ard,Handbook Of Mar-Counsering（Palo Alto:Science and Behavior Books,Inc.）,p.289.
4 Jerry Adler,"The Science of Love,"Newsweek,（Feb.25,1980）,p.89.
5 Kenneth Woodward,"What the Pope Is Really Saying About Sex And marriage,"McCalls（April,1981）,p.192.
6 Howard Hendricks,"Yardseticds for Love"（lecture notes）,p.25.
7 George F.Gilder,Sexual Suicide（New York:Quadrangle,1973）,p.72.
第十六章
1 Eve1yn Duvall and Reuben Hill,When You Marry（New York:Association Press,1948）,p.35.
2 Dr.Rrichard Strauss Marriage Is For Love（wheatOn,IL:Tyn-dale House Publishers,1979）,p.35.
3 Elof G.Nelson Your Life Together（Richmond:John Knox Press,1967）,pp.68-69.
4 C.S.Lewis The FOur Loves（New York:Fontana,1963）,p.104F.
第十七章
1 Larry Christenson,The Christian Family（Minneapolis:Bethany Fellowship,Inc.,1970）,pp.27-28.
2 Stanley L.Englebardt,"What Is This Thing called Love?"Reader's Digest（June,1980）,p.109。
3 John Powell,Why Am I Afraid To Love?（Niles:Argus Com.munications,1972）,pp.25,27.
4 Albert Lee and Carol AIlman Lee,The Total couple（Dayton:Lorenz Press,1977）,pp.75-76
5 Madora Holt,"The secrets Behind Successful Marriages,"Christian Science Monitor（October5,1978）,p.17.
第十八章
1 Gary Inrig,Qualtty Friendship （Chicago:Moody Press,1981）,pp.156-157.
2 Inrig,Friendship,p.156-157.
3 Kenneth S.Wuest,The New Testament,An Expanded Transla-tion（Grand Rapids,Erdmans,1981）,P.407.AdditionaI References:The Christian Home,"Walking In Love,"pp.16-18.
第十九章
1 Walter Trobisch,I Loved A Girl（New York:Harper ＆ Row,1963）,p.25.
2 Henry Brandt,When A Teen Falls In Love（Grand Rapids:Zondervan,n.d.）,p.27.
第廿章
1 Evelyn Duvall and Reuben Hill,Before You marry（New York:Associaticrn Press,1959）,p.33.
2 Charles R.Swindoll,Comitment:The Key To Marriage (Port-land: Multnomah Press,1981),P.15.
3 Frank O.C.x,Human Intimacy: Marriage,The Family and its Meanting (St.Paul:West Pubilshing Co.,1984),P.118.
4 Lawrence Crabb,Jr.,The Marriage Builder (Grand Rapids:Zondervan Publishing House,1982),PP.33-34
5 Herman Weiss and Judy Dvais,How To Get Married (New Yord:Ballantine Books,1983),P.12.
6 Natalie Gittelson,"Happily Married Women: How They Got That Way,How They Stay Thay Way,"McCall's(Feb.,1980),P.36.
7 Fradk O.Cox,American Ways Of Love (Los Angeles:West Publishing Co.,1978),P.79.
8 H.Norman Wright,Pillars Of Marriage (Ventura,CA:Regal Books,1979),p.44.
第廿一章
1 H.Norman Wright and Marvin Inmon,A Guidebook To Dat-ing,Waiting,And Choosing A Mate (Irvine: Harvest HousePublishers,1978),p.17.
2 Harold J.Sala,"20 Commandments For A Better Marriage,"Christian Life (Jan.1979),p.53
第廿二章
1 Albert Lee and Carol Allman Lee,The Total Couple(Dayton:Lorenz Press,1977),p.54.
2 Kathleen Fury,"Sex and the American Teenager," Ladies Home Journal(March,1980),p.159.
3 Walter Trobisch,I Loved A Girl(New York:Harper ＆ Row,1963),p.4.
4 Dr.Richard L.Strauss,Marriage Is For Love (Wheaton,IL:Tyndale House Publishers,1979),p.34-35
第廿三章
1 Robert B.Taylor,"Behind The Surge In Broken Marriages,"U.S.News ＆ World Report(Jan.22,1979),p.53.
2 Ibid.
3 Charles R.Swindoll,Commitment:The Key To Marriage (Port-land: Multnomah Press,1981),p.18.
4.Swindoll,Commitment,p.18.
第廿四章
1 David Gelman,"How Marriages Can Last,"Newsweek(July 13,1981),p.73.